Let's continue here; i'll put it into 'answers' later though, because i think this question is important.
To remotely monitor the queue, SSH is not needed. SSH is simply needed to enqueue files that are located on your local computer (the client). So if you can't connect to the hellanzb daemon, it's not because of SSH. Are you sure that the hellanzb daemon is configured to allow connections from other hosts?
Let's continue here; i'll put it into 'answers' later though, because i think this question is important.
To remotely monitor the queue, SSH is not needed. SSH is simply needed to enqueue files that are located on your local computer (the client). So if you can't connect to the hellanzb daemon, it's not because of SSH. Are you sure that the hellanzb daemon is configured to allow connections from other hosts?