so i just decided to grit my teeth and wait for the update to finish. it slowly does make progress. this is the ps output
root 757 0.5 0.2 109944 86956 pts/4 Ds+ 14:34 0:06 /usr/bin/dpkg --status-fd 59 --unpack --auto-deconfigure /var/cache/apt/archives/libdevmapper1.02.1_2%3a1.02.48-4ubuntu7.4_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/initramfs-tools_0.99ubuntu13.5_all.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/initramfs-tools-bin_0.99ubuntu13.5_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/dmsetup_2%3a1.02.48-4ubuntu7.4_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/udev_175-0ubuntu9.5_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/file_5.09-2ubuntu0.3_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libmagic1_5.09-2ubuntu0.3_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/sudo_1.8.3p1-1ubuntu3.6_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/xkb-data_2.5-1ubuntu1.5_all.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/bind9-host_1%3a9.8.1.dfsg.P1-4ubuntu0.8_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/dnsutils_1%3a9.8.1.dfsg.P1-4ubuntu0.8_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libisc83_1%3a9.8.1.dfsg.P1-4ubuntu0.8_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libdns81_1%3a9.8.1.dfsg.P1-4ubuntu0.8_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libisccc80_1%3a9.8.1.dfsg.P1-4ubuntu0.8_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libisccfg82_1%3a9.8.1.dfsg.P1-4ubuntu0.8_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/liblwres80_1%3a9.8.1.dfsg.P1-4ubuntu0.8_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libbind9-80_1%3a9.8.1.dfsg.P1-4ubuntu0.8_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/openssh-server_1%3a5.9p1-5ubuntu1.2_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/openssh-client_1%3a5.9p1-5ubuntu1.2_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/python-apt-common_0.8.3ubuntu7.2_all.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/python-apt_0.8.3ubuntu7.2_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/gir1.2-gtk-3.0_3.4.2-0ubuntu0.7_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/update-manager-core_1%3a0.156.14.12_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/update-manager_1%3a0.156.14.12_all.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/cups-filters_1.0.18-0ubuntu0.2_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/firefox_28.0+build2-0ubuntu0.12.04.1_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/firefox-globalmenu_28.0+build2-0ubuntu0.12.04.1_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/firefox-locale-en_28.0+build2-0ubuntu0.12.04.1_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/gir1.2-gudev-1.0_175-0ubuntu9.5_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/printer-driver-postscript-hp_3.12.2-1ubuntu3.4_all.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/printer-driver-hpijs_3.12.2-1ubuntu3.4_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libsane-hpaio_3.12.2-1ubuntu3.4_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/hplip_3.12.2-1ubuntu3.4_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libhpmud0_3.12.2-1ubuntu3.4_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/hplip-data_3.12.2-1ubuntu3.4_all.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/printer-driver-hpcups_3.12.2-1ubuntu3.4_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/imagemagick-common_8%3a6.6.9.7-5ubuntu3.3_all.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libmagickcore4_8%3a6.6.9.7-5ubuntu3.3_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libmagickwand4_8%3a6.6.9.7-5ubuntu3.3_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/imagemagick_8%3a6.6.9.7-5ubuntu3.3_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/jockey-gtk_0.9.7-0ubuntu7.14_all.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/jockey-common_0.9.7-0ubuntu7.14_all.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libcdt4_2.26.3-10ubuntu1.1_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libdevmapper-event1.02.1_2%3a1.02.48-4ubuntu7.4_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libgnome-bluetooth8_3.2.2-0ubuntu5.1_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libgraph4_2.26.3-10ubuntu1.1_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libpathplan4_2.26.3-10ubuntu1.1_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libgvc5_2.26.3-10ubuntu1.1_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/liblightdm-gobject-1-0_1.2.3-0ubuntu2.4_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/liblvm2app2.2_2.02.66-4ubuntu7.4_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libmagickcore4-extra_8%3a6.6.9.7-5ubuntu3.3_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libnautilus-extension1a_1%3a3.4.2-0ubuntu9_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libotr2_3.2.0-4ubuntu0.2_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libpurple-bin_1%3a2.10.3-0ubuntu1.4_all.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/libpurple0_1%3a2.10.3-0ubuntu1.4_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/linux-firmware_1.79.11_all.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/linux-libc-dev_3.2.0-60.91_amd64.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/nautilus-data_1%3a3.4.2-0ubuntu9_all.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/pidgin-data_1%3a2.10.3-0ubuntu1.4_all.deb /var/cache/apt/archives/pidgin_1%3a2.10.
so i just decided to grit my teeth and wait for the update to finish.
it slowly does make progress.
this is the ps output
root 757 0.5 0.2 109944 86956 pts/4 Ds+ 14:34 0:06 /usr/bin/dpkg --status-fd 59 --unpack --auto-deconfigure /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libdevmapper1. 02.1_2% 3a1.02. 48-4ubuntu7. 4_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ initramfs- tools_0. 99ubuntu13. 5_all.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ initramfs- tools-bin_ 0.99ubuntu13. 5_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ dmsetup_ 2%3a1.02. 48-4ubuntu7. 4_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ udev_175- 0ubuntu9. 5_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ file_5. 09-2ubuntu0. 3_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libmagic1_ 5.09-2ubuntu0. 3_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ sudo_1. 8.3p1-1ubuntu3. 6_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ xkb-data_ 2.5-1ubuntu1. 5_all.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ bind9-host_ 1%3a9.8. 1.dfsg. P1-4ubuntu0. 8_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ dnsutils_ 1%3a9.8. 1.dfsg. P1-4ubuntu0. 8_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libisc83_ 1%3a9.8. 1.dfsg. P1-4ubuntu0. 8_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libdns81_ 1%3a9.8. 1.dfsg. P1-4ubuntu0. 8_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libisccc80_ 1%3a9.8. 1.dfsg. P1-4ubuntu0. 8_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libisccfg82_ 1%3a9.8. 1.dfsg. P1-4ubuntu0. 8_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ liblwres80_ 1%3a9.8. 1.dfsg. P1-4ubuntu0. 8_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libbind9- 80_1%3a9. 8.1.dfsg. P1-4ubuntu0. 8_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ openssh- server_ 1%3a5.9p1- 5ubuntu1. 2_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ openssh- client_ 1%3a5.9p1- 5ubuntu1. 2_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ python- apt-common_ 0.8.3ubuntu7. 2_all.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ python- apt_0.8. 3ubuntu7. 2_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ gir1.2- gtk-3.0_ 3.4.2-0ubuntu0. 7_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ update- manager- core_1% 3a0.156. 14.12_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ update- manager_ 1%3a0.156. 14.12_all. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ cups-filters_ 1.0.18- 0ubuntu0. 2_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ firefox_ 28.0+build2- 0ubuntu0. 12.04.1_ amd64.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ firefox- globalmenu_ 28.0+build2- 0ubuntu0. 12.04.1_ amd64.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ firefox- locale- en_28.0+ build2- 0ubuntu0. 12.04.1_ amd64.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ gir1.2- gudev-1. 0_175-0ubuntu9. 5_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ printer- driver- postscript- hp_3.12. 2-1ubuntu3. 4_all.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ printer- driver- hpijs_3. 12.2-1ubuntu3. 4_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libsane- hpaio_3. 12.2-1ubuntu3. 4_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ hplip_3. 12.2-1ubuntu3. 4_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libhpmud0_ 3.12.2- 1ubuntu3. 4_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ hplip-data_ 3.12.2- 1ubuntu3. 4_all.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ printer- driver- hpcups_ 3.12.2- 1ubuntu3. 4_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ imagemagick- common_ 8%3a6.6. 9.7-5ubuntu3. 3_all.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libmagickcore4_ 8%3a6.6. 9.7-5ubuntu3. 3_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libmagickwand4_ 8%3a6.6. 9.7-5ubuntu3. 3_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ imagemagick_ 8%3a6.6. 9.7-5ubuntu3. 3_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ jockey- gtk_0.9. 7-0ubuntu7. 14_all. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ jockey- common_ 0.9.7-0ubuntu7. 14_all. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libcdt4_ 2.26.3- 10ubuntu1. 1_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libdevmapper- event1. 02.1_2% 3a1.02. 48-4ubuntu7. 4_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libgnome- bluetooth8_ 3.2.2-0ubuntu5. 1_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libgraph4_ 2.26.3- 10ubuntu1. 1_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libpathplan4_ 2.26.3- 10ubuntu1. 1_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libgvc5_ 2.26.3- 10ubuntu1. 1_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ liblightdm- gobject- 1-0_1.2. 3-0ubuntu2. 4_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ liblvm2app2. 2_2.02. 66-4ubuntu7. 4_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libmagickcore4- extra_8% 3a6.6.9. 7-5ubuntu3. 3_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libnautilus- extension1a_ 1%3a3.4. 2-0ubuntu9_ amd64.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libotr2_ 3.2.0-4ubuntu0. 2_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libpurple- bin_1%3a2. 10.3-0ubuntu1. 4_all.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ libpurple0_ 1%3a2.10. 3-0ubuntu1. 4_amd64. deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ linux-firmware_ 1.79.11_ all.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ linux-libc- dev_3.2. 0-60.91_ amd64.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ nautilus- data_1% 3a3.4.2- 0ubuntu9_ all.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ pidgin- data_1% 3a2.10. 3-0ubuntu1. 4_all.deb /var/cache/ apt/archives/ pidgin_ 1%3a2.10.