"[name] would like permission to see when you're online" message offers no action to take

[Jay S]

As described in this question:

https://answers.launchpad.net/ubuntu/+source/empathy/+question/176041

I got a notification that "[name] would like permission to see when you're online," but there was no clear way to approve or deny that request, or possibly no way at all. The messaging icon didn't turn blue, and I don't see anything in Empathy's menus.

I'm running Oneiric with Empathy 3.2.0.1

[Launchpad Janitor (janitor)]

Status changed to 'Confirmed' because the bug affects multiple users.

[Janos Pasztor (janoszen)]

Also affects 12.04 (Precise Pangolin)

[Generalster (generalster)]

Also affects 12.10.

[Lesser (j-brouwers)]

In my 12.10, if I go to the bottom right "hot corner", I see a question mark. Clicking there shows all requests with the option to "accept" or "deny" the contact. Actually, I am looking for a way to disable these messages that I keep getting from webcam girls...

[Hobson Lane (hobs)]

Also affects me on Empathy in Fedora 19. So more general fix should include accept/deny always/just-once in security settings option in Empathy itself, rather than gnome/kde.