I did more debug:
1) the nova schduler did choose another compute host as destination , and  instance's host was changed into the destination when the instance is in VERIFY_RESIZE state. But from vCenter  the instance was still in original EXSi host (actuall there are two instances ,one with old name , one with suffix _orig).   This is not right.

2) after resize ,  instance's host name was changed,  the changed host name  is not  mananged by nova-compute , then resize confrim, nova-compute can't find the changed host name , then the error was raised.

Before resize 
[root@10-1-0-71 nova]# nova show gcb_resize1
+--------------------------------------+----------------------------------------------------------+
| Property                             | Value                                                    |
+--------------------------------------+----------------------------------------------------------+
| status                               | ACTIVE                                                   |
| updated                              | 2013-12-18T07:42:27Z                                     |
| OS-EXT-STS:task_state                | None                                                     |
| OS-EXT-SRV-ATTR:host                 | vmware_nova_cluster01                                    |
| key_name                             | None                                                     |
| image                                | trend-thin (4432ca56-8be0-4794-9c22-52a8c7a2bf55)        |
| network1 network                     | 10.0.1.2                                                 |
| hostId                               | 964f8e94c6b9084b0059044896687b96e12dd97a33d61deb564244ee |
| OS-EXT-STS:vm_state                  | active                                                   |
| OS-EXT-SRV-ATTR:instance_name        | instance-000000ca                                        |
| OS-SRV-USG:launched_at               | 2013-12-18T07:42:27.000000                               |
| OS-EXT-SRV-ATTR:hypervisor_hostname  | domain-c17(cluster01)                                    |
| flavor                               | m1.tiny (1)                                              |
| id                                   | 2f93a76e-fcd7-4fe2-96c6-1a750b430f3c                     |
| security_groups                      | [{u'name': u'default'}]                                  |
| OS-SRV-USG:terminated_at             | None                                                     |
| user_id                              | 01dd320eb49d4bdfaa08a9ec021a48d4                         |
| name                                 | gcb_resize1                                              |
| created                              | 2013-12-18T07:41:38Z                                     |
| tenant_id                            | 045dd87f67eb40d1b18f6c9498be3bd9                         |
| OS-DCF:diskConfig                    | MANUAL                                                   |
| metadata                             | {}                                                       |
| os-extended-volumes:volumes_attached | []                                                       |
| accessIPv4                           |                                                          |
| accessIPv6                           |                                                          |
| progress                             | 0                                                        |
| OS-EXT-STS:power_state               | 1                                                        |
| OS-EXT-AZ:availability_zone          | nova                                                     |
| config_drive                         |                                                          |
+--------------------------------------+----------------------------------------------------------+

After resize:
[root@10-1-0-71 nova]# nova show gcb_resize1
+--------------------------------------+-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------+
| Property                             | Value                                                                                                                             |
+--------------------------------------+-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------+
| status                               | ERROR                                                                                                                             |
| updated                              | 2013-12-18T08:05:52Z                                                                                                              |
| OS-EXT-STS:task_state                | None                                                                                                                              |
| OS-EXT-SRV-ATTR:host                 | vmware_nova_cluster02                                                                                                             |
| key_name                             | None                                                                                                                              |
| image                                | trend-thin (4432ca56-8be0-4794-9c22-52a8c7a2bf55)                                                                                 |
| network1 network                     | 10.0.1.2                                                                                                                          |
| hostId                               | 5f93f60c197ee7af029b96f22fb39dea07a9caae6cbaee77481a6919                                                                          |
| OS-EXT-STS:vm_state                  | error                                                                                                                             |
| OS-EXT-SRV-ATTR:instance_name        | instance-000000ca                                                                                                                 |
| OS-SRV-USG:launched_at               | 2013-12-18T07:59:12.000000                                                                                                        |
| OS-EXT-SRV-ATTR:hypervisor_hostname  | domain-c382(cluster02)                                                                                                            |
| flavor                               | m1.small (2)                                                                                                                      |
| id                                   | 2f93a76e-fcd7-4fe2-96c6-1a750b430f3c                                                                                              |
| security_groups                      | [{u'name': u'default'}]                                                                                                           |
| OS-SRV-USG:terminated_at             | None                                                                                                                              |
| user_id                              | 01dd320eb49d4bdfaa08a9ec021a48d4                                                                                                  |
| name                                 | gcb_resize1                                                                                                                       |
| created                              | 2013-12-18T07:41:38Z                                                                                                              |
| tenant_id                            | 045dd87f67eb40d1b18f6c9498be3bd9                                                                                                  |
| OS-DCF:diskConfig                    | MANUAL                                                                                                                            |
| metadata                             | {}                                                                                                                                |
| os-extended-volumes:volumes_attached | []                                                                                                                                |
| accessIPv4                           |                                                                                                                                   |
| accessIPv6                           |                                                                                                                                   |
| fault                                | {u'message': u'NV-3AB798A The resource domain-c382(cluster02) does not exist', u'code': 404, u'created': u'2013-12-18T08:05:52Z'} |
| OS-EXT-STS:power_state               | 1                                                                                                                                 |
| OS-EXT-AZ:availability_zone          | nova                                                                                                                              |
| config_drive                         |                                                                                                                                   |
+--------------------------------------+-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------+